Sunday, October 26, 2008

tough love

Everyone who has had the misfortune of getting caught in one of my football-themed diatribes knows I would not be the kind of coach who gives out there-there pats; unlike my students who are still growing up and figuring out how to behave (and even so, my there-theres are limited in supply), college & professional football players are adults who ought to know by now how to behave.

Throughout my time at WSU, the Cougars' coach gave me fits every week with his too-kind grandfatherly way of consoling & excusing players who clearly needed a swift kick in the ass, or at least a few minutes of reflection on the bench. I had classes with many of those jokers who didn't seem to get that they were part of a team, and that their actions - both heroic and idiotic - spoke for everyone.

Today I was heartened to see Mike Singletary, interim coach of the San Francisco 49ers, get on one of his players for unsportsmanlike conduct. Some coaches would yell at a player, some would ignore him, some would seethe and stomp on the sidelines; Mike Singletary first benched Vernon Davis then, after consideration, told him to go take a shower and call it a day. What I love the most about this action is that Singletary did it without anger - his point was that Davis was not being a team player and so needed to leave the game to get himself together. Genius.

I hope I can be like Mike with my own kids and in my classroom. (Though I will forgo the 49ers gear).


Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

I'm right there with you.

Janet said...

Ohhh, can I just say, what a huge crush I had on Mike Singletary back when he was playing with da Bears? HAWT!!!

~Swankymama said...

I have found this to be true with my kids. When I very calmly say that the day is now over for him/her and to go take a shower and get in is one of the most effective things to modify behavior.

Lisa Wheeler Milton said...

As a non-football following gal, any time a player comes up, I always ask Greg about their character.

Athletes, and really, any celebrity, shouldn't get special treatment.

I like this Mike. I like the calm approach.

Cheri @ Blog This Mom!® said...

You lost me at football.

But then I came back because of your awesomeness (same kind of thing happens in my marriage every Sunday during football season).

I think it is so important for players on teams to be team players, not just for the team, but for the kids watching who look up to sports figures as role models.

JCK said...

Great story. Probably best to forgo the shoulder pads, etc.


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