Saturday, January 1, 2011

resolution-free zone

As a teacher, I often emphasize the necessity of setting goals. I talk about making them Achievable, Believable, and Controllable (get it - ABC?) and differentiate between goals and dreams (which do not necessary have to be any of the ABCs; witness my Potential Second Husband List[s]). It is important to know what you want and design some sort of plan for getting there; I appreciate the concept and attempt to sell it to the Youth of America.

However, when it comes to resolutions I am a non-believer. I think I psych myself out, setting these high standards that start to feel unmanageable, and also I get into a "Who am I to tell ME what to do? What's wrong with the old me??" state of insanity mind. So in order to affect necessary change in my life, I tend to go with the ignorance is bliss/fake out philosophy in which I don't consciously let myself know that I am trying new techniques; I just start doing whatever was going to be my resolution and hope it sticks.  As though I am actually schizophrenic and by not acknowledging the changed strategy, my other obstinate personality is unaware and doesn't protest.

Regardless, there is an element of me [perfectionist] that wants & needs to do things differently. Thus, at the start of this magical new year, I will write some *ideas* here in code so the resistant alternate personality doesn't try to sabotage my secret efforts to institute change.
  • I am hoping to see more sunrises & enjoy more unrushed breakfasts with my children
  • If I start to wear out my yoga pad, I can shop for a new one and possibly some more cute sweatpants
  • I'd like to increase the need to wear the sweet apron my friend Sam gave me
  • Writing detailed lesson plans farther in advance means a greater ability to attend author events and concerts mid-week, guilt-free
And I think posting on my blog every day will restore the peace of mind & balance I misplaced awhile back. That I will say out loud in clear language, because it is the key to all of the other parts coming together.

May you live all the days of your life. ~ Jonathan Swift

Happy 2011, friends.


Gretchen said...

Love your code. I may have to steal that.

"If I need a new, smaller bra, I will go to Victoria's Secret and burn a hole in my credit card."

or "I will go get that belly button re-pierced to show off my toned abs."

Yeah, I've been working on that last one for 11 years...

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

I'm not a resolution person either--I figure I should do it, not talk about it.

My yoga mat probably misses me.

apathy lounge said...

I don't reolve officially..but I do make efforts toward change. I don't know any other way to make a change in my life. That said, I get what you're saying.

psychomom said...

LOVED it...I am a compulsive resolution-maker...I actually have 7 brand spanking new goals for 2011... my family and friends think I'm a nutcase.

shrink on the couch said...

I'm with you. Resolutions are just one more way to induce guilt. But I must say, I did quietly say to myself that I plan to get back to the gym. Haven't been in months. So, yesterday, when hubby said to me, "want to go work out?" I thought it must be an omen - he almost never suggests a trip to the gym. I'd also like to attend a few yoga classes. I have been putting off and putting off for too long.

Happy New Year, Bad Mom and family!

Anonymous said...

Funny, corporate speak mandates goals be SMART - Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Trackable.

I am surprised I remembered all that.


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